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Anger Can Destroy your Future
Fast. This is the Best Way to Avoid It!
Therapeutic self talk is a very effective way to reduce your feelings of anger.
This approach emphasizes managing your thought processes.
After all, unhealthy thinking can trigger your anger and prolong it, long after it
should have passed. Self talk is used to prevent and astutely manage your angry reactions.
Your self-talk or thinking patterns become conscious mental self-instructions
which guide the way you cope with aggravation and stress. Used diligently, they can become very powerful anger
management and coping skills.
To implement this cognitive self-talk treatment, first dissect your anger
experience into its discrete parts. It is important that you deal with your anger experience one piece at a time,
rather than all at once.
Here is the sequence of steps to do so:
1. Provocation Preparation.
This is relevant when you know ahead of time that you will confront a trigger to
your anger. However, this does not always apply because anger is sometimes triggered without any
Keep an anger diary. In doing so, you will discover that much of the time,
you get angry about things that happen repetitively.
By using foresight in anticipating a provocative situation, you can then design a
strategy for coping with it ahead of time. You can consciously form a specific thought about it or attitude that
will facilitate managing your emotions constructively.
2. Confrontation with the Trigger.
This applies when you actually experience the anger trigger, which might occur
suddenly, or gradually. At this stage, you are aware that you are in an anger-triggering situation.
Important: Before you explode, use your early signs of anger as signals or signs to consciously start using
your anger management skills.
3. Coping with High Physical Arousal which is Triggered by Anger-Enhancing
Being agitated by a triggering situation is normal, however, as the provocation
progresses, adrenaline and other fight-enabling hormones are produced. Unfortunately, because of this, in the
absence of cognitive vigilance, your responses can become unnecessarily self-destructive.
This crucial stage mandates awareness and cognitive vigilance, which will then
trigger you to consciously implement your all-important cognitive management skills.
4. Reflecting on the Anger-Provoking Event.
After the fact, reflect on what upset you and assess the effect it has had on
you. Your thoughts and feelings will, likely, be determined by how the conflict was or was not
If it remains unresolved, your continued cognitive vigilance will be necessary. If
the conflict was resolved you will likely feel satisfied.
Therapeutically-oriented cognitive self-instructions enable you to direct your
thoughts, feelings, and actions so that you deal with a conflict-laden situation constructively, not
In this process, you develop thoughts or cognitions that are designed to handle a particular situation in a
Mental self-instructions are consciously used by champion athletes to guide their
attention, to promote ease and to trigger skillful execution of their movements. The goal is to create self,
or mental instructions that are uniquely customized to calm yourself in the face of anger-triggering
When available, be sure to use self-therapy kits (STKs), workbooks, your therapist
or other therapeutic mechanisms to create sets of mental self-instructions that will enable you to achieve
effective anger control. Remember, anger takes place as a series of separate components, so it is crucial
that you dissect the situation into its discrete parts.
You will probably discover that you perform better in some stages than in others.
Nevertheless, managing the separate phases, one at a time, will make the process of managing your anger easier,
more understandable and will enable you to customize your self-statements for each unique situation.
5. Therapeutic Aides
Besides reading, taking classes or consulting a therapist, one way to learn how to
do this is by using self-therapy kits (STKs). They are compact self-help programs that provide valuable ways
to write your own mental self-instructions.
They teach these skills by using any one or any combination of the
following: CDs, DVDs, MP3s, e-books, workbooks, audios, videos etc. STKs are used at home, are
self-paced and are available 24/7. They provide psychological and self-instruction tutoring and use
visualization, behavioral exercises and systems to monitor your progress.
They are educational in nature and, consequently, no side-effects are produced,
and there are no prescriptions or doctor visits involved. You may even want to test them before participating
in any counseling; after all, they may resolve your anger by themselves.
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Dr. Mike Shery is a
licensed clinical psychologist and is affiliated
with almost all health plans, including:
ValueOptions, Medicare, Cigna, Coventry, Cigna Behavioral Health, United Health Care,
Aetna-Allied, First Health, Healthstar, Blue Cross Blue Shield of Illinois, ComPsych, Magellan
Health, Meridian, HFN, Tricare, Humana, most union local plans, most school district plans,
Unicare, ChoiceCare, CAPP, Multiplan, Mental Health Network, Managed Health Network, United
Behavioral Health, PPONext, Private Health Care Systems, Humana-Military and Beech Street
He has practiced
clinical psychology for approximately 30 years and is board certified as a specialist in professional counseling by the International Academy of Behavioral
Medicine, Counseling and Psychotherapy. He is the director of Affiliated Counseling and
Referral Services and is a member of the American
The office is located
in Cary, IL and in select cases phone consultations are available for those who don’t live
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