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DR. Michael Shery, clinical
2615 Three Oaks
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Cary, Illinois 60013
|“Since 1976, state-of-the-art counseling which treats the problem, not just the
University of Southern California, 1975
Referrals accepted from Alexian Brothers, Good
Shepherd, Centegra, Loyola, Northwestern University, University of Chicago and the Mayo
Clinic hospitals and physicians.
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Sometimes my patients ask me if the feeling of happiness can be inherited. Is it possible that one is "born
happy" or "born unhappy?" If so, what can you do about it?
Research seems to suggest that there may be a genetic component to the feeling of happiness. Immediately after
birth it even seems that some infants are born with happier, more animated temperaments than others.
As we grow, it certainly appears that some people more easily develop personality traits that are strongly
correlated with happiness. They include enhanced sociability, a predisposition towards physical activity and
temperaments that are more stable and sanguine.
Important: However, that doesn't mean that we have no influence or control over our feelings of
satisfaction and happiness. As in many areas of life, our genes define only a range of experiencing that is
possible, not a rigid immutable set point that is independent of other influences.
Everything else being equal, a born "depressive" will not be able to find it as easy to feel happy as someone else
who is born more sanguine-like. However, if you are one of the born "depressives," by utilizing the correct
behaviors, research shows you can improve your levels of happiness.
What about circumstances, people often ask. For example, aren't people more likely to be happier if they are
Everything being equal, the answer is probably "yes." But very rarely are peoples' circumstances equal to each
In fact, in terms of emotional quality of life, long term scientific research suggests that money and social status
matter little in this regard. Why?
Perceived happiness depends primarily on your state of mind; attention is everything! Perceived happiness is mainly
influenced by how and where you focus your attention.
Is it focused on the full or the empty part of the glass? It also largely depends on the way you interpret the
external events you encounter.
For example, do you tend to perceive your failures as catastrophic, or as opportunities to learn and extract
meaning? A very common barrier to perceiving yourself as happy is the mistaken expectation that one particular
occurrence, such as the healing of a relationship, a bonus at work or the acquisition of a heard-earned academic
degree will finally make you happy.
But alas, as soon as that event occurs, your new-found happiness just becomes a flash-in-the-pan , leaving you just
as unfulfilled as you were previously. A satisfied state-of-mind and a sanguine life is rarely generated by a
particular life-changing event.
The truth: Your level of perceived happiness is shaped incrementally, throughout your life, one
experience and one moment at a time-for as long as you live. So is there anything you can you do now to feel
Fact of life: The quality of your life is sculpted by your day-to-day, ordinary experiences and on
where you place your focus and how you interpret life events. The power of the ordinary has been proven time and
again: For example, more than anything else, it is easier to unearth a sense of happiness by spending quality time
with loved ones, learning something new and giving to others, rather then performing one spectacular thing.
Study after study demonstrates that the more we contribute to others, the higher our perceived happiness becomes,
then we become more inclined to help others again. Research seems to demonstrate that the quality of our
interpersonal relationships and our ability to share with others are core determinants of our level of perceived
You can start now to improve the levels of satisfaction and happiness in your life? Start with these...
1. Inventory your responsibilities and meaningfully reduce them. Don't continue trying to squeeze more
activities into less and less time. Quantity is inversely proportional to quality, the more you do, the less
quality you have and the less satisfaction you feel.
2. Perform regular behaviors manifesting the values you hold as dear and rewarding. What might
Some possibilities: Taking a weekly class next semester or having a weekly date night with your spouse. Manifesting
your cherished values creates feelings of happiness and if you don't commit to them in advance, you often won't
engage in them.
3. Keep a daily gratitude journal. Before retiring for the night, list at least three things that
gave you satisfaction. They can be big or small -- from a meal you enjoyed to a movie you liked to a conversation
you may have had with a friend. Do this everyday for the rest of your life!
A question I often get from patients is: How can I be happier if I'm going through an extremely hard time, but
there's nothing I can do about it right away, like being unemployed in a recession?
4. See seemingly intransigent periods in life philosophically and unearth ways to infuse them with
meaning. After all, part of life is our having to endure sometimes extended periods when life affords us
minimal, if any, enjoyment.
When modifying your perceptions isn't effective, building in one or two satisfying experiences into an otherwise
difficult situation can help significantly. For example, I had a patient in his later 50s who no longer enjoyed his
career as a lawyer, however, he didn't want to give up the lifestyle that he and his family had grown accustomed to
through his profession.
Through counseling, he decided to reduce his caseload so that he could spend two evenings each week taking a class
and one day with his wife and kids. Of course, in an ideal world, he would prefer working full time at something
about which he was passionate, but modifying the workload and schedule of his largely unsatisfying job finally
enabled him to be happier than he had been in many years.
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Dr. Mike Shery is a
licensed clinical psychologist and is affiliated with almost all health plans,
including: ValueOptions, Medicare, Cigna,
Coventry, Cigna Behavioral Health, United Health Care, Aetna-Allied, First Health, Healthstar,
Blue Cross Blue Shield of Illinois, ComPsych, Magellan Health, Meridian, HFN, Tricare, Humana,
most union local plans, most school district plans, Unicare, ChoiceCare, CAPP, Multiplan, Mental
Health Network, Managed Health Network, United Behavioral Health, PPONext, Private Health Care
Systems, Humana-Military and Beech Street .
He has practiced
clinical psychology for approximately 30 years and is board certified as a specialist in professional counseling by the International Academy of
Behavioral Medicine, Counseling and Psychotherapy. He is the director of Affiliated
Counseling and Referral Services and is a member of the American Counseling Association.
The office is located
in Cary, IL and in select cases phone consultations are available for those who don’t live
locally> Telephone Counseling.
To make an
appointment> New Patient Registration or to learn more about the psychological services
he provides call him at 1-847-275-8236 (24