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How to Find the Perfect Marriage Counselor-from Cary, Huntley and Crystal Lake, IL

Hiring a marriage counselor is a crucial decision. It is important to know what you should assess in a marriage counselor in order to make the right decision. Marriage counselors are there to assist you in your communication and relationship problem- solving goals.

They provide perspective and offer more constructive ways of viewing things. They help you to stay motivated and to think more constructively about your partner and relationship.

However, all this is only possible if the counselor is an expert professional who is competent and knows what he is doing. If not, all your efforts will go to waste.

Here are some tips on what you should look for in a marriage therapist:

Check his credibility:

There are certifications for marital therapists. A therapist should be credentialed as a "psychologist," "licensed social worker," "professional counselor," or" marriage and family therapist." You should also consider the counselor's experience. However, keep in mind that experience is not infallible in telling you how well a therapist will work with you.

Check his personal profile:

Check out your therapist's credentials and the organizations to which he belongs. What is his attitude and personality like?

Does he sound energetic and empathic? Does he pay attention and provide feedback, or does he just sit there?

It is crucial to consider these elements because your counselor is there to facilitate your communication. There will be times when you'll need expert assistance in conversing about troublesome topics with your partner.

Yet, if the counselor is unable to provide you with help in discussing stressful or troublesome topics, he is probably not worth your time. Study his credentials, experience and style, so you can assess whether he is a skilled counselor or not.

Discuss your goals with him:

Before you go to a therapist, know what your goals are. Secondly, read various self-help magazines and books that discuss similar stuff.

This way, you'll have a handful of information to discuss. Also, discuss your goals with him because you may be able to evaluate his expertise by his feedback and suggestions.

If he is talking exclusively about your parenting or childhood, using old school methods, then he is probably not right for you. A good marriage counselor will be someone who is up to date with the current trends and developments in the behavioral and psychological sciences.

Evaluate whether he action-oriented. Ask if he assigns homework?

If he is action-oriented and assigns homework, hire him! Believe it or not, you will not want to hire a therapist who is not relatively directive and action-oriented.

In some respects, there should be no escape from your being accountable for your improvement. There will be times when you will feel like throwing your hands up, but a good counselor will make sure that you don't. This is the reason why you are hiring him, remember?

You wouldn't be hiring him if you wanted to zone-out and not learn anything. It's his job to make you practice constructive communication and problem-solving methods.

Just remember a golden principle - an action-oriented therapist that prescribes homework and practice is a good therapist. Some people ask that once a counselor is selected, if there a good form of preparation needed before starting counseling.

As stated previously, I think its best to start your counseling by reading relevant self-help books and other publications. Using such educational materials before or while engaging in treatment will likely boost both the speed and quality of your success several times over! You can find various self-help materials by looking on the internet.

Search for "self-help" "self-improvement," "anxiety, depression self-help," "self-therapy kits," "STKs, etc. and discuss any self-help material you select with your counselor. This form of discussion can provide fertile ground for you and your partner to reach new heights in your relationship.

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Dr. Mike Shery is a licensed clinical psychologist and is affiliated with almost all health plans, including:  ValueOptions, Medicare, Cigna, Cigna Behavioral Health, United Health Care, Aetna, First Health, Healthstar, Blue Cross Blue Shield of Illinois, ComPsych, Magellan Health, HFN, Tricare, Humana, most union local plans, most school district plans, Unicare, ChoiceCare, CAPP, Multiplan, Mental Health Network, Managed Health Network, United Behavioral Health, PPONext, Private Health Care Systems, Humana-Military and Beech Street .

He has practiced clinical psychology for approximately 24 years and is board certified as a specialist in professional counseling by the International Academy of Behavioral Medicine, Counseling and Psychotherapy. He is the director of Affiliated Counseling and Referral Services and is a member of the American Counseling Association.

The office is located in Cary, IL and in select cases phone consultations are available for those who don’t live locally> Telephone Counseling.

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