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Infidelity: How Cheapskates Can Discover the Truth about their Partner's Cheating!




  DR. Michael Shery, clinical psycholoGY

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 Infidelity: How Cheapskates Can Discover the Truth about their Partner's Cheating!

Illicit affairs have always existed but their frequency is mushrooming, causing unconscionable suffering on the part of betrayed spouses and love partners everywhere. Men have always cheated, but since the arrival of "The Pill" and the increasing recognition of womens rights and independence, female infidelity has been rapidly growing, as well.

Have you noticed any suspicious signs that your partner may be cheating? Are tell-tale signs of your partner's infidelity worrying you? Be vigilant for the following signs:

1. A Partner with Secrets

If your spouse suddenly stops discussing things with you, when he has previously done so, that could be a red flag. Has your significant other been spending abnormal amounts of time on the Internet? If so, think about it.

Cheating men don't want to be overheard. Are you unable to see or hear what is being said when he is on the phone because he shuts the door or turns his cell off when you are around?

When on the phone, does he avoid your presence? If you enter the room suddenly, does he disconnect from the call abruptly? If so, it could be a red flag.

Also, does he avoid you, act alarmed or mention someone that you have never heard of when you ask to whom he was talking? If so, maybe it is a red flag.

2. Strange Changes in Behavior

Sudden changes in your partner's behavior can be suspicious. Cheaters often change their appearance to impress those with whom they are cheating.

However, your partner may have changed his clothes and appearance for a legitimate reason. However, if he never cared much about the way he looked previously, these changes could be a sign of an affair.

Has their been any changes in the frequency, intensity or type of sexual behaviors he prefers? Has he attempted to uncharacteristically avoid sex with you or does he show an unexplained proclivity in trying things that you two have never tried before?

3. Has He Become Uncharacteristically Irritable or Defensive with You?

Cheaters suddenly and frequently become short with their partners for no apparent reason. Even an innocuous question about his work can cause him to explode and accuse you of over-reacting to something.

Some people opine that only spouses who feel guilty use anger to defend themselves. It could be a red flag.

4. Has he Suddenly Started Charging too Much on Credit Cards?

If your significant other is suddenly spending too much money and becoming more miserly with the time he has available for you and the family, it could be a warning sign and signify that he is being unfaithful.

Being measured, reasonable and observant is warranted. After all, access to tools of the digital age, including email, texts, instant messaging, Facebook, the Internet etc., has caused the amount of infidelity to explode.

The Internet has made quick, surreptitious and easy contact between people more accessible and convenient than ever before. Consequently, affairs and cheating are poisoning the emotional lives of betrayed spouses and partners everywhere.

However, as the methods used by cheating spouses have drastically changed in favor of electronic and digital methodologies, so have the techniques of infidelity detection that are now available for betrayed partners. For example, a very quick and efficient way to discover if your spouse or partner is engaging in illicit behavior while online is the use of a professional dating service investigation.

A lot of cheaters frequent dating, fetish, swinger and various social networking sites, like MySpace and Facebook. Many cheaters and betrayed partners are unaware that when the signs of cheating online become apparent, a betrayed partner can contract with a private investigator to perform an online dating service and infidelity investigation.

To do so, all most investigators will typically require is the suspected cheater's email address. The investigator will then run it through a comprehensive database of websites where cheaters commonly register.

When "hits" are obtained, clients are then provided with a detailed report listing website links where their cheating partner has registered. Be vigilant; some studies actually suggest that as many as 20% to 35% of the registrants on dating sites are already married or involved in a committed relationship of some kind.

If hiring a private investigation firm seems like too big a step, then the cheapest way to detect and confront a cheating partner is to use a tested "Self-Therapy Kit" (STK) from the comfort of your home. STKs are amazing digital programs that tutor you, personally, step-by-step on how to detect and confront your partner's infidelity.

As opposed to the expense of hiring a private firm, you discover how to uncover and confront your spouse's cheating very cheaply, on your own, at home. STKs teach these invaluable skills directly to you using various media, including: CDs, DVDs, MP3s, e-books, workbooks, audios, videos etc. or any one, or combination, thereof.

The good news is that you do not have to continue worrying needlessly. You can quickly and easily discover the truth about your significant other by using the expertise provided by professional infidelity investigators or proven digital multi-media programs (STKs) used in the privacy of your home.


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Dr. Mike Shery is a licensed clinical psychologist and is affiliated with almost all health plans, including:  ValueOptions, Medicare, Cigna, Coventry, Cigna Behavioral Health, United Health Care, Aetna-Allied, First Health, Healthstar, Blue Cross Blue Shield of Illinois, ComPsych, Magellan Health, Meridian, HFN, Tricare, Humana, most union local plans, most school district plans, Unicare, ChoiceCare, CAPP, Multiplan, Mental Health Network, Managed Health Network, United Behavioral Health, PPONext, Private Health Care Systems, Humana-Military and Beech Street .


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